You can develop the same strength of character by moving flexibly with all the situations in your life. Stand tall and be rooted in the moment. Know your needs, but allow them to be met as life knows how. Do not insist that your needs be met in a certain way. If you do, you will offer unnecessary resistance.   The trunk of the tree snaps when it tries to stand against the wind. Move in the wind.  Your life is a dance. It is neither good nor bad. It is a movement, a continuum.